But I could not, and would not, risk all of their lives when I knew one could thrive. As a mother, it was the only choice I had. It was a sacrifice beyond what I thought I was capable of making, but, as parents know, that's part of being a parent.
Going through same situation. Crying myself to sleep everynight. I feel guilty. Reduction scheduled next week. I was faced with this option when I was pregnant with my triplets 15 years ago.
I made the best decision to keep them. Although, my pregnancy lasted 32 weeks. Tough decisions all around and everything you said hit the nail on the head. Anyone who takes the time to publicly shame a women grieving, and uses God as back up to their argument should really take a good look back at the Bible.
Kristen, you made a decision that was both devastating and brave. Thank you for sharing your story for those who will be in a similar position in the future. Your love for all of your babies is evident and you just your first difficult decision in parenting. I know you and your husband will be strong enough to face the many more that come with raising a child.
I don't normally comment, and I don't know if you will ever see this, but after seeing the other appalling comment I just wanted to say that you are so strong. That had to be a heartbreaking decision, one that no should be able to comment on unless they've been in the same position. Congratulations on your healthy baby boy, every time you hold him you will know you made the right decision. Lots of love! As a woman, the gift of pregnancy is priceless and special. Maybe God knew better than to grant you a child.
Rather than take heed in an over populated planet, you pushed it then recklessly chose to abort the precious thing called life with the back door or science. Women like you ruin abortion for legitimate reasons from rape, molestation, and risk of life for the mother. Babies are real living human beings and should not be treated as an inconvenience. You are the poorest example and disgrace of what it is to be a woman.
By Kristin Diversi October 09, Save Pin FB More. Kristin Diversi. Courtesy of Kristin Diversi. Comments 8. Sort by: Newest. Newest Oldest. Read More. Load More Comments. Close this dialog window Add a comment. Add your comment Cancel Submit. Close this dialog window Review for. But in , Evans published a paper that overturned his past recommendations, arguing instead for the safety of reducing to singletons, even if the original pregnancy was only twins.
We now know that twins are not twice the risk of singletons, they are more like four times the risk. For instance, there is a 1 in chance of cerebral palsy with a single birth, but 1 in with twins. If you define success of a pregnancy as a healthy baby and a healthy mother, it's safer to reduce to singleton. Women should be aware that this is a possibility," he says.
Though Evans argues that reducing twins is medically justifiable, this procedure remains highly contentious, especially considering that some couples admittedly choose to undergo reductions for personal, not medical reasons.
Though the idea of reducing the number of viable fetuses based on personal preference raises hackles among many, proponents argue that if women are allowed to abort pregnancies based on personal preference, they cannot be denied the right to abort only part of a pregnancy.
After her own experience with unexpected multiples, Dr. Ross's concern lies not in the moral questionability of twin reductions, but in the psychological welfare of the couples.
Though she did not opt to reduce her triplets, she says she has seen the psychological toll that reduction can take on parents. Some of the families go on to experience a lot of grief. At every milestone for the child they decided to keep, there is this ghost in the room, this feeling that there should have been two of them," she says. Maureen Doolan Boyle, executive director of MOST, a national support group for families with triplets or more, says she sees a similar sense of loss and grief with some of the couples she counsels.
If all abortions are wrong, then an abortion that kills just one of the twin fetuses is wrong as well. Nevertheless, many find it difficult to accept the pro-life position. Then there are pro-choicers who think that a pregnant woman is the only person who should have any say in whether she will continue the pregnancy and how many fetuses — if any — she will gestate.
We should just accept that she is morally entitled to abort one of her fetuses and gestate the other — if that is what she wants. However, if we follow this reasoning then we should also accept that a pregnant woman is also morally entitled to end any number of pregnancies at any stage of the pregnancy for any reason, however trivial. Yet, many people even those who think the woman should always have a legal option to do so think it is morally wrong, for instance, to end the life of a female fetus at the last stages of pregnancy because of its sex.
A plausible solution to the problem is to show that twin pregnancies are much riskier and more burdensome to the woman than single pregnancies, so gestating two fetuses is not really the same thing as gestating one. Therefore, we could keep the belief that there is something morally wrong in late-term sex-selective abortion but we could also think that reducing a twin pregnancy to a singleton is not wrong because it is done to reduce the risks for both the fetus and the mother — not because of some trivial preference.
However, it is not clear that reducing a twin pregnancy to a singleton actually reduces pregnancy risk and complications or burdens of the pregnancy.
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