But I don't really have anything to say to her husband -- and it seems weird to do that, too -- so I usually just avoid posting on their pages altogether. Based on an informal survey I conducted among my Facebook friends -- many of whom are happily married -- here's what others have to say about the practice:. Sandra: "FB should be where you reconnect with friends and follow up with family I have a few friends who share and I never know who I am talking with I tend to not write to them as much.
Elizabeth: "It makes me wonder about their relationship. Do they not trust each other? Did one do something questionable in the relationship? Tommy: "If I get a request from a couples page, I don't accept it. Or I don't ever talk to them because you never know who you're talking to. Their couples page negates them altogether as far as I'm concerned.
As far as sharing email accounts and passwords is concerned: a big no to that. It just reeks of high school relationship insecurity. Do you share an online social media account with your partner? How do you feel about the practice? That's you. A pathetic, whipped, inadequate dope with no visible individuality of any kind. Yep, it's "Facebook official": You and your "better half"—which you call him or her publicly on countless status updates, somehow assuming people give a shit—have a joint social media account.
You might want to shield each other's eyes; this one could get a little graphic. Independence is gorgeous, isn't it? Be the person your mind chooses to be, so long as it doesn't hurt other people. Like whatever you want to like. Share anything and everything you enjoy. This big spinning rock is a playground. Make it yours. That is until, of course, your husband or wife asks you to create a joint Facebook account with a convincing, "We'll be able to trust each other even more now!
Let's see your ex-girlfriends try and message you now! Am I being a little over the top with it? But this annoying tendency to combine lives in all possible aspects isn't cute.
Individualism is a necessity. Not to mention, seeing "RobertandCassandra" jammed into the single "first name" field on Facebook's "sign up" page doesn't leave a good taste in anyone's mouth. You sometimes see them on Facebook accounts too — two people who are sharing one profile, rather than having two separate ones. Maybe the couples feel it's a sign of their connection — but the practice generates lots of "dislikes" from their Facebook "friends. I actually decline people now if they have a joint account.
It's annoying. So why do people do it? Why not set up your own account, rather than piggy-back off a spouse or partner? Couples whose relationships pre-date social media, might be more likely to share a Facebook account, says New York City-based neuropsychologist Dr. Sanam Hafeez via email. Partners as such can be perceived by others as combining their virtual identities into one. By doing so, it prevents unwanted solicitation from any individual seeking out a romantic relationship.
The fidelity issue certainly seems to be a common perception by bystanders. A joint account can be a great way to reduce jealousy as well as trolling , explains mental health expert Lynette Louise, but it doesn't last.
However, some people have joint accounts, not because they are attached at the hip or don't trust their partners one inch, but for more practical reasons.
It's tough to quantify how many couples have joint accounts and for what reasons, since it's actually against Facebook policy.
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